2) Describe who you might submit to and how. Are you exclusively submissive in marriage or just in the bedroom? Are you submissive only in the context of a scene or in a role or throughout your daily life? Are you submissive to play partners or only in the context of a relationship?
I guess I am a natural submissive. While life took me into another direction, the problem solver, the shoulder, the decision maker…..my true self was buried.
I have now reached to point in my journey where I realize that submitting to another, someone I enjoy of course, is what gives me pleasure. There will hopefully always be my one Master, who can share me and have me submit to others, without 1 central figure I think I would shut it down.
In my daily life, like many submissives, I still have to be assertive in some situations, still need to take control but when the door closes behind me at the end of the day I long to shed that persona and become his.
I rarely seek or choose a play partner that would prefer to submit to me, I am just not very good at being the Dominant. In fact, if I like someone, submitting to them is natural, and just seems to flow from me, something I never imagined a few short years ago.
Happily my Master has recognized this and once said “You will never be the aggressor”, words that resound in my head and make me very happy.